Father’s Day Buying Guide

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Father’s Day is less than a week away and your sitting here still at your computer wondering what to get that special guy in your life.  No worries.  I’ve got you covered.  I’ve come across some awesome small businesses created by some  amazing women that can take care of that issue for you.  Guess what?  These gifts won’t break the bank and you’ll be coming back for more.  Let’s take the time out this year to support those in our community that don’t get the recognition they deserve when it comes to the phenomenal work they put in behind the scenes each day.  Below are a few of my favs that are offering some pretty dope products for Father’s Day.  Check them out and let me know what you think.

  1. Mess In A Bottle- Dad Mug, Dad Shirt  www.messinabottle.com


  1. Silksations Creations Regal for Men Body Butta & Body Scrub


Regal Scrub

  1. Crafts By Meesha- The Dad Box https://www.facebook.com/craftsbymeesha


4. Fleurty Wick Candle- Hand poured soy candles “Man Cave Collection” www.fleurtywick.com

5. Koils By Nature- Natural Men’s Care Products


6. Keys of Beauty- BeardTiFULL Beard Oil


7. Monnie and Me

 t-shirts, Mugs, & aprons



Overcoming the Impossible: My T1D Story


Around this time last year, my body was going through some major changes and I didn’t even know it.  I went from weighing 200 pounds even to going down to 130 pounds in less than 6 months.   I seemed to have lost weight without even trying.    I found it kind of odd at first because by that time I slacked up on my work outs, but I just attributed it to my continuous healthy eating habits.  I started to notice significant hair loss as I briefly mentioned in my post titled “The Big Chop Experience.”  There was literally hair everywhere no matter how gentle I was with it.  I remember seeing large globs of it on the shower floor as I washed my hair and standing in the mirror only to see bald spots.  I wore wigs for months to cover it up, but I didn’t feel like myself.  I eventually cut it all off.  I was devastated and was looking for answers.  I was growing my hair back from cutting it off a few years back and felt like all of my work toward growth was in vain.  I eventually figured that maybe I was losing hair do to a lack of protein, so I supplemented thinking it would fix the problem, but it didn’t.


I started to notice an increase in my thirst almost overnight.  I was always thirsty and my tongue felt like a desert.  I found myself standing in the kitchen at two in the morning with the refrigerator door wide open, drinking anything and everything straight from the jug.  I remember going through a gallon of Tampico in less than a day after I drank all of the water in the house.  Of course, after drinking everything in sight.  I remember driving to the nearest gas station every day at lunch and after work for large cup of ice and a large slushi to relieve my extreme thirst and even then that was not enough.  I also experienced increased urination because of this.

Among all of these things, I was extremely tired, fatigued, and exhausted, which is why I began to slack up on my work outs.  I was literally falling asleep at work in mid-sentence with customers on the phone.  I set a timer on my phone just to take naps during my lunch break and once I got home from work. I was still losing weight and beginning to look sick. The new clothes I bought were falling off of me and my collar bone and ribs were showing.  Things were getting bad and I was completely confused.

In October of 2016, I went to my yearly appointment with my gynecologist.  She mentioned to me that I had high sugar levels in my urine and they may possible mean that I might be a diabetic.  She wanted to do some blood work to confirm.  Jokingly, I told her that I went to the movies the night before and had a big slushy.  I was really confused after hearing this.  I looked great and in my opinion.   I felt great, especially after a good nap.  I wasn’t sure what to make of all of it. I started to Google search everything that had been going on with me and all of the symptoms that come with diabetes.  This only made things worse.  Google had me thinking I was going to be on my death bed soon.

Instead of going in the following day fasted for blood work, I came in about two weeks later.  I didn’t expect to get a phone call for another couple of days.  My doctor called me about two hours later with my lab results.  She said that I tested positive for diabetes and my blood glucose level was at 330.  I still didn’t know what that even meant.  I felt fine.  She kept asking me how I had been feeling.  I responded by telling her that I was pretty fatigued, which had been the norm for the last few months.  She urged me to make an appointment with my PCP immediately.  I was scared at that point.  Like most, I was pretty ignorant to what diabetes was and how dangerous it can be if not cared for properly.

When I contacted my doctor’s office, I was told that I would not be able to see her until mid-January and it was only October.  I ended up making an appointment with a nurse practitioner.  I was extremely nervous for my first appointment.  I had no idea what questions to ask or even what to expect. At the time I was told that I had type 2 diabetes and all I needed to do was diet and exercise.   Because of my high glucose levels, I was issued a glucose monitor and placed on Metformin the same day.  I explained that I ate right and lost a significant amount of weight, a total of 65 pounds in six months, but the nurse could not come up with a reason as to why this happened. She brushed me off and told me it must be in the family.

The following week at my next appointment, I was placed on insulin that I had to inject once before bed to help regulate my glucose levels, which is called basal insulin.  My blood sugar levels were in the high 400’s and 500’s.  Days later, I was to the point of injecting insulin 4 times a day just to keep my sugar levels regulated. I learned that every time I ate no matter what I ate, my levels would rise. I carried needles and syringes with me everywhere I went and had to inject prior to each meal.  It was painful and embarrassing.

I finally ended up seeing my PCP, who later did more research and blood work to find out that I was actually a Type 1 diabetic.  She explained to me that I have a rare case of adult onset type one diabetes.  Type one is usually found in adolescents.  The cause is currently unknown.  In most people with type 1 diabetes, the body’s own immune system, which normally fights harmful bacteria and viruses, mistakenly destroys the insulin-producing cells in the pancreas.  Being a type one diabetic has nothing to do with your weight or how many cupcakes you eat at a time.  It is an autoimmune disease.  Once I found this out, I was partially relieved, but still wanted answers.  I researched day and night.  I bought books on amazon, read articles, and joined Facebook groups and Instagram pages just for adults with type one diabetes for comfort.


Over the past few months, I have gained back several pounds.  All of the new clothes I purchased for my small frame are now fitting snug or not at all.  I lost a significant amount of hair prior to diagnosis and have been wearing a low hair cut since December.  I have been through several up and downs since diagnosis and have been to several appointments.  I lost my sight shortly after diagnosis and had to wear glasses.  Now my sight is back as I have my blood sugar levels under control.  I am now using an insulin pump which looks like  a small cell phone and holds enough insulin that my body needs for 3 days.  I am attached to my pump 24/7 and change out the tubing every 3 days.

I have to calculate my carb intake to regulate the correct amount of insulin I need for each meal.  I prick my fingers around 10 times a day if not more.  There a many instances when I have extremely low blood sugar levels and that’s when things can get scary.  I start to get cold sweats, I shake uncontrollably, and I can feel nauseous.  It’s almost as if I lose all control of my body.  Because of this, I keep snacks, juice boxes, glucose tablets, and candy on my person at all times to keep myself leveled.   I also keep an emergency glucagon shot with me at all times in case I can’t raise my blood sugar up on my own.  It was upsetting to know that I would never be able to just eat whatever I want, whenever I wanted.  I have to plan each meal accordingly by counting carbs and taking the right amount of insulin at the right time.  Sometimes I splurge with my food and make sure my math skills are up to par when adjusting my insulin.

I battle with depression on and off.  Some days are harder than others, but I push through and I am thankful that I am alive.  When I was first diagnosed, I couldn’t handle the news.  I couldn’t find the strength to get out of bed, let alone leave the house.  I felt sorry for myself.  I cried so many tears and tried so hard to understand why something like this would happen to me.

I’m going to be honest and say that for a moment, I lost my faith that God is healer.  I had to reevaluate the situation and realize that I am a King’s kid.  This is not the end.  It’s only the beginning.   After time, I got back on my feet and decided to live and not die in my situation.  I put a smile on each day and pray for my healing.  I try my best to make light of my situation by encouraging others.  The God I serve is a healer and I claim total and complete victory over my life in Jesus’ name.  I feel like this happened for a reason and my trial is a testament.  I choose not to allow the devil to take my joy.  I am living on purpose.

Kalilah Wright: “Mess in a Bottle”


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In the times that we live in, merely working at a typical 9-5 just doesn’t cut it anymore.   More women are leaving their cookie-cutter lifestyles and branching out on the path to becoming an entrepreneur.  Some talk themselves out of their dreams because of the fear of failure, while others muster up enough faith and strength to push through their passion.  I decided to seek out and interview amazing, everyday women who have made it their duty to push the envelope of entrepreneurship despite the challenges. It would only be fitting to feature a few of these women creating history or should I say “her-story” here on the blog once a month.


I conducted my very first of many interviews with the beautiful soul Kalilah Wright. She is a single mother of an 3 year old son, hustler, and CEO of the T-shirt company “Mess in a Bottle.”  Per Wright, her company creates products that are “emotional, thought provoking, and expressive to the current climate of the world.”  Her products include, but are not limited to t-shirts, mugs, pillow cases, pens, and jackets.  I stumbled upon Kalilah after being added to a closed business branding group on social media and her posts were so inspiring to me that I felt the need to interview her as soon as possible.

The name Mess in a Bottle derived from Kalilah’s desire to display messages on her products.  Kalilah explained that the name “Message in a Bottle” had already been taken when she initially started her business, so she decided to coin the name “Mess in a bottle” and ran with it.   “Mess” would represent the good, the bad, and the ugly,” said Wright. In our interview, Kalilah stated that she wanted to create messages to allow people to be vocal without saying anything at all. She accomplished that and so much more with her catchy phrases and original designs.  Kalilah’s messages through her apparel are both innovative and creative and always up on the times.  They reflect both political and social aspects of the current events.  She is always quick on her toes when it comes to new phrases on her products and her advertising is always on point, visual, and relatable.


Now what I love most about her product is the packaging.  Mess in a Bottle isn’t just a cute name for her online t-shirt shop.  Her shirts come inside of a cute reusable bottle. It’s very reminiscing to the message that would travel in a bottle through bodies of water.  Except in this case the messages are printed on stylish t-shirts and are sent via USPS.

At the age of 4 years old, Kalilah’s parents decided to immigrate from Jamaica to Brooklyn, NY. She moved to Baltimore, MD 8 years ago and frequently visits New York.  Wright earned her master’s degree in architecture and design.  With her degrees and skills, Kalilah managed to land a job creating interior store layouts for Under Armor for two years.  Now I know what you may be thinking, who would leave Under Armor?  Well, some people just have that entrepreneurial spirit and Kalilah is one of them.  When I asked this question, she explained that at the time, she owned a baby furniture company and needed some extra cash flow to maintain the business.  She learned that selling t-shirts would yield a faster turnaround time and help fund her original business.  Her side hustle became overwhelming over time and it began to interfere with her day job at Under Armor.  She eventually made the big decision to step out on faith and make the pursuit to turn her side hustle into a full time her business.  Kalilah currently has two assistants and up to five virtual assistants who all play a part in customer service, responding to emails, and invoicing to maintain the flow of Mess in a Bottle.

Kalilah was featured on the variety talk show “Harry” hosted by Grammy and Emmy winner Harry Connick, Jr. and it has made a difference in sales for Mess in a Bottle.  Wright said that the experience was an amazing feeling and it wasn’t planned at all.  It was initially orchestrated by a friend of hers that was looking out.  She said that everything seemed to happen within a matter of days.  Her friend told her that the Harry show was looking to feature entrepreneurs for the next episode. After getting wind of that info, Kalilah called and spoke to the casting director to find out about getting on the show.  When the episode aired, she received an enormous amount of attention and a big jump in sales.

I asked Wright if there are any ethical concerns that she might deal with while running her business.  She mentioned that she does run into some difficulties when creating her political shirts.  Her overall brand supports others opinions, but sometimes they may not agree with her own.  Since this benefits her business, she is willing to overcome that difference.


She sees Mess in a Bottle ten years down the line as a big corporation and not just a T-shirt company.  Wright mentioned that she’d like to be able to go outside of shirts one day and expand to other products as well.  She is working on a few projects currently that will assist in leading Mess in a Bottle in that direction.  Kalilah is also transitioning into preparing her business for the uncertainties of life.  I asked what she thinks would happen to her business if she was no longer here.  Kalilah said that she is in the process of putting together a mess in a bottle handbook on how to operate the business that would also include her vendor information so that the business would continue to run smoothly whether she is here or not.


As we closed out our interview, I asked Kalilah if there was any advice that she would give anyone trying to start a business of their own.  She said that someone new to the scene should stay true to their process. Kalilah mentioned that the biggest issues that she has run across in business are finances, minimal capital, and time management.  So many people have their own answers to how their business works.  She said that it’s necessary to figure things out on your own.  What works for one person will not always work for the next.  Kalilah said that the amazing part about building a business is that we create our own path with no formula.  She mentioned that she sticks to using her own intuition and gut feelings to make her decisions.  I must say that I completely agree with this way of thinking.  You won’t get too far trying to be like anyone else but yourself.  No two businesses are going to be alike even if they are in the same niche.  Do you boo boo!



I’ve got my “Mess” in a Bottle. “Get Your Life Write. Bloggerlife.”

Grab yours at www.messinabottle.com

You can also follow Mess In A Bottle on:

Instagram @messinabottle and Facebook @ MESS in a Bottle

I’m so happy to have been able to speak with this queen and “mompreneur” about her prospering business.  She kept it real and let me know that it’s no walk in the park or for the faint of heart.  If I hadn’t mentioned this enough, Kalilah Wright is an inspiration on every level. She embodies what the definition of a true hustler is.  Watching her grow and expand her brand over time is like watching one of your home girls finally make it to the top.  Her small wins are big for all of us.  She literally started from the ground up and can only go higher from here on out.

This interview is the first of so many to come.  If you haven’t followed the blog already, go ahead and do so to keep up with the latest and greatest as Favored Freauxs continues to grow.  We’ll be featuring a new woman creating “Her-story” each month.





God Is Not Mad At You


The Lord Is gracious and full of compassion, slow to anger and great in mercy. The Lord is good to all, And His tender mercies are over all His works”

-Psalms 145:8-9

A lot of us live our lives ashamed of our selves and ashamed to seek God’s face in times of despair.  We feel that if we don’t have a spot free past that He will forsake us.  We feel that if we are living in sin that He will turn His back toward us.  Even when Eve committed the very first sin, God still loved her in this mist of her shame and guilt.  Contrary to popular belief, God does not hold on to our shortcomings against us in fierce anger.  When we continuously think this way, it leaves ample time for the devil to make his way into our lives and cause so much confusion.  We slowly distance ourselves away from the will of God and find it harder to find our way back on the right path in fear of being a disappointment to others and especially God.  It’s similar to a child in fear of disappointing their parent and keeping distance from them when they’ve done wrong.

The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying:

Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with loving kindness I have drawn you.

-Jeremiah 31:3

God’s love is eternal and everlasting despite our flaws.  I know it may be difficult to believe because of human interaction.  When we disappoint our friends and loved ones, we find that they may not forgive so easily or take us back with open arms.  God is not of this world.  He created us and knows everything we are doing and will do.  He created the blueprint for the plans He has in our lives.  We are always welcome back in His arms despite our flaws, mishaps, sins, or just bad decisions.

I love the Lord, because He has heard my voice and my supplications.  Because He has inclined His ear to me, Therefore I will call upon Him as long as I live.

-Psalms 116: 1-2

Call out to the Lord in times of need.  When you feel alone, depressed, or stressed, He is the listening ear that will always be available.  God will always have the solutions to your problems and will guide you and keep you.  He is a forgiving God. He will guide you back on the path you were meant to follow and never lead you astray.
What then shall we say to these things?  If God is for us, who can be against us?”

-Romans 8:31

Just know that you are not alone and God will always be there for you regardless of wrong doing.  God is not mad at you.  Don’t sit dwelling in your past.  Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  God has blessed you with a fresh start, a new beginning.  Take advantage of it right now and start off by giving Him praise for all of His grace and mercy toward you.


Motivation Monday- Col 3:23

Happy Monday! (1)“Whatever you do, work heartily as for the Lord and not for men.”- Col 3:23

Hey there freauxs!  Happy Monday.

As we begin a brand new week, let us step into it with a new mindset.  I know that Mondays are not usually anyone’s favorite day of the week, but it is a chance to start a new and put forth great effort to accomplish new goals.  Let’s keep the above scripture in mind and work heartily for the Lord.

Personally,  when I wake up knowing that I am working to please the Lord and no one else, I get an extra boost to get going.  As I open my planner and see what’s ahead of me, it can be overwhelming, but God always makes a way.  I just put my trust in Him to guide my every foot step to get me through the week.

Just remember that there were several people that did not have the opportunity to wake up this morning.  The blessing of life is the biggest blessing of all.  God saw fit to give you the opportunity to praise Him just one more time, to be thankful one more day, and to be a blessing to someone else once more. Treat every task throughout your day as you are doing it for the Lord and see how much of a difference that makes!

Here are a few things I do to keep my mind steadfast on God as I cruise through the week:

  1. Wake up earlier and have a devotion each morning to start your day. You’ll find yourself in such joy and clarity to get through the rest of the day.
  2. Let God speak to you. Stop talking and listen.
  3. Walk according to the purpose He has placed in you.
  4. Play your favorite praise music in the house as you get ready for work and play it in the car on the way to your destination. I even have headphones at work to listen to my worship music while I work.
  5. Even with a busy schedule, make time for prayer throughout the day. It’s mandatory.

By implementing these things in your daily life, you will find that nothing of this world can come in the way of the joy of the Lord.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”- Rom 15:13

Have a blessed and productive week!

Self-Care- Invest In Yourself


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As women, mothers, wives, business owners, and so much more, we tend to forget about ourselves as we continuously tend to the needs of others.  We work from sun up to sun down working for either ourselves or others just to make ends meet.  We are personal chefs as we prepare meals and pack lunches.   We are hair stylists on a daily in the salons of our kitchens.  We are accountants balancing our checkbooks and creating and maintaining monthly household budgets.  We are teachers, chauffeurs, and doctors all by trade.  You get where I’m going with this.  We are superwomen, or at least we think we are.  Even superheroes have weaknesses.  Although we feel as if we can conquer the world and then some, we have to realize that at some point we will weaken without taking care of ourselves.  As I’m writing this I’m sitting in my bed with a bad cold.  I hardly ever take off of work, but I decided that my health was much more important than a job that can replace me with a snap of a finger.  I’d rather take a day or two to rest up than to end up in an even worse condition because I didn’t take enough time for myself and my own health.

“There just aren’t enough hours in a day.” 

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day who shared my same views and feelings when it comes the above statement.  There really just aren’t enough hours in a day.  We begin to slowly fall apart at the seams when we don’t take enough time for ourselves.  Our hair isn’t done, we forget to shave, I even forget to eat at times.  We continue to make doctor appointments for the kids while we push our own aside and just drink a glass of orange juice.  It just comes naturally to make sure that everyone and everything else is priority over ourselves.

Self-care is extremely necessary for the betterment and elongation of your life.  You have to treat yourself at all costs.  No, I don’t mean strictly money when I say” at all costs.”  There are so many different ways that we can allow ourselves self-care without spending a dime or even leaving the home.  Just know and understand that if you don’t take care yourself, you won’t be able to care for anyone else in the future.  By all costs, I mean that when you decide to take time for yourself, stand firm make and sure that you take that time no matter what is going on or how full your schedule may seem.

The advice that I gave my friend was this:

“You should schedule mandatory time for yourself, whether it’s an hour each day or one day each week.  Do something that makes you happy and don’t let anything or anyone come in between that time you set aside for yourself.  Set a day to get your hair done or nails.  You have got to treat yourself.  No one will do it as well as you would.”


Here are a few examples of the many things you can do to provide self-care:


Take a bubble bath:

This might seem really simple, but if your life is anywhere near as hectic as mine then you’ll understand that this is actually a luxury.  I can barely take a shower or use the restroom without little people calling my name or sticking their fingers under the door seal.  Sometimes I even open up the shower curtain to find my children sitting on the toilet seat or the bathroom floor just waiting patiently for me… (insert side eye emoji).  To actually be able to run bath water without toys floating in it or bubble gum scented bubbles is a major accomplishment.  So, yes, take a bubble bath ladies.  This is completely free and so relaxing.  You can pretend you’re at a spa in your own home.  Light up some candles, pour in your favorite oil, bath salt, and make a few bubbles.  Light a few candles and if you really want to get fancy, throw in some rose pedals and play some music.  You can thank me later.

Reading is fundamental:

If you are an avid reader like myself, then this would be a great way to relax yourself.  Pick a time each day where you stop everything and read a few chapters of your favorite book.  Maybe even make it a goal to read one book a month so that you make sure you are getting your reading time in.  For me, reading takes me to another place, whether fiction or non-fiction.  I can imagine myself in inside of world full of the words that my eyes are surrounded by and take a step out of the normal just for a little while.

Date Yourself:

Some people think that it may be embarrassing to go out to eat by yourself.  I use to feel that way.  Bring your headphones or your favorite book and date yourself.  Put on a cute outfit, fix your hair, and take yourself to your favorite restaurant when you actually make free time.  Go see a movie alone.  Bring a small blanket or comfy sweater and enjoy.  I think the best time is during the matinee hours when the tickets are cheap and plenty of seats are available.

We often waste time waiting on others to be able to go out, whether it’s a friend or friends, boyfriend, or husband.  There were plenty of times that I’ve made plans with others weeks ahead of time and something would come up that forced me to cancel.  Ladies, you know that we like to buy a new outfit and get our hair and nails done as we anticipate that one day where we finally get to step out of the house.  Being with company is great, but we also need to take time out to get to know ourselves by ourselves.

Make a nail/hair appointment

This does not have to be every week, but just often enough to be able to treat yourself and feel like a woman again. You don’t have to break the bank at all.  Even getting your ends trimmed or a simple polish change can make a pretty big difference in my opinion.  Most of the time I do my own hair and nails, so when I actually make an appointment, it’s a pretty big deal and I feel extra afterwards.  You can’t tell me a thing when I walk out of the nail shop.

Work out/Eat right:

Self-care is so much more than just taking care of our flesh.  We can always cover ourselves up with makeup, nail polish, a cute hair style, and a bomb outfit, but if we don’t work on ourselves internally, all of that will be for nothing.  Take the time out to make simple changes to your eating habits and add physical activity to your schedule.  Start small by doing simple exercises 20 to 30 minutes a day.  Make small changes in your eating by switching to healthier options like wheat bread instead of white and increasing your water intake.  It’s all possible with baby steps.

Spend Time on Prayer and Meditation:

While I’m on the topic of taking care of your inner person, let’s talk about prayer and meditation.  Prayer and meditation is most definitely essential.  If it’s the only thing you do, it would be beneficial to your life in the best way.  Wake up an hour earlier in the morning or stay up a little later after the kitchen is shut down and the kids are asleep.  The key here is to make time.  Take the time out to not only pray, but to listen for a response from God.  We spend a lot of time talking and not enough listening for answers from Him.  Use this time to release your burdens on the Lord, meditate on His goodness and mercy for all that He has done and is doing in your life.  Play some worship music and just praise His name.  You will find so much peace in this moment or the day that nothing or no one can take away your joy.  Command your day to be well despite what is to come and you will walk in perfect peace.  I promise you that this is nothing but the truth.  We spend so much time on everything else and can never seem to make time for God in our lives.  Put Him first and everything will follow.


This list can really go on for forever.  The main goal when it comes to self-care is doing something that you love or that you desire the most that benefit you.  This thing is something that would take you away from the usual tasks of your world just for a moment.  Taking time for yourself should allow you to relax, breathe, and think for once.  No longer let the worries of how the bills will get paid, or the car trouble, or even how you’re going to get that permanent marker out of the walls (seriously, suggestions are welcome).  Schedule your me time and stick to it. You can thank me later.  You deserve it!


What ways do you instill self-care in your life?  What are some things that you have always wanted to do but never can?  Leave a comment below.  Let’s talk about it.


Tips for Healthy Hair Growth



Hey there Freauxs!

It seems like FOREVER since the last time I posted on my blog.  Life has been so crazy, but I’m trying to get back into the groove of things.  You’ll be seeing much more from me, I promise.

While I debate on whether or not to grow out my low hair cut, I thought I would share with you a few things that always helped me when it comes to healthy hair growth.  The key word is healthy.  I know that for some people, length can be goals, but at what cost? Lets get the length while ensuring that we are taking care of our hair from the inside out. These are just a few quick tips, but I’ll definitely make sure to get more in depth in future posts if you’d like.

Protective Style:

I know that I spoke about this in a previous post.  Protective styling is very important when it comes to hair growth.  When we just let our hair breath and leave it alone, it flourishes.  I’ve cut my hair so many times, but when I do decide to let it grow back, I throw my wigs on and keep my hands out of it while I watch my curls grow.

Protect your hair at night:

Always use silk or satin when preserving your curls at night.  If you don’t like to wear a scarf or a bonnet like me, there’s the option of using a satin pillow case.  You can find satin pillow cases practically anywhere like Target, Wal-Mart, and even the beauty supply store.  The ones that I have for myself and my girls were around $5 each.  If you like a DIY, you can also make your own satin pillowcase at home.  Using cotton scarves or pillow cases can cause major breakage to your hair, which is not very helpful when it comes to retaining your length.  Your growth will be at a stand still.

Moisturize Your Hair:

You really have to listen to your hair.  Over time, you’ll learn how your hair should feel when it is properly moisturized or when it is dried out.  I use the L. O. C. method on myself and on my girls’ hair.  L. O. C. stands for Liquid Oil Cream.  The Liquid that I use alternates between water and a leave in conditioner.  My absolute favorite leave in conditioner for our natural curls is the Lemon Grass Leave- In Conditioner by Alikay Naturals.  I’ve been using sweet almond oil or coconut oil, but I’ve switched to Jamaican Black Castor Oil with the change in weather.  I’m still on the search for other oils that would work well with our hair textures.  I find that this oil is thicker and holds in the moisture longer while penetrating my strands.  The cream that I prefer to use is usually one that is thick and also smells great.  I alternate between a few different products for all three of us.  I’ve been using The Curl Smiler, Almond Jai Twisting Butter, shea butter or Shea Moisture’s She Butter deep treatment mask.

Trim your hair regularly:

Okay, so although I don’t have much hair on my head right now, when I did have longer hair, I would dust my ends every now and then while my hair was in twists when I saw a few stray split ends.  I like to get a professional trim about two times a year or every 6 months.  I believe that as long you take care of your hair the way that you should, there is no reason to have to trim constantly through the year.    Of course, that is just my opinion.  Some people believe that they should trim every six weeks.  It’s definitely a personal preference.

Regular trims are recommended because split ends can eventually break away and fall off.  I actually dealt with this problem while I was relaxed.  My hair was past my shoulders and because I was obsessed with my length I never got it trimmed.  My split ends just started breaking off on their own.  My hair ended up being uneven and when I finally did go to a professional for my trim, the stylist had to cut much more than they would have had I been getting it trimmed regularly.

Show Your Hair Some Love:

Take the time out to give your hair some TLC to moisturize, strengthen, and restore your strands to its healthiest state.  You can do this by deep conditioning your hair at least twice a month for about thirty minutes to an hour.  I’ve also deep conditioned overnight before and does wonders for my hair.  Hot oil treatments can be done twice a month as well to restore moisture and promote growth.   Protein treatments should be done once a month.  Our hair is made up of protein and should be treated with it as well.  Some textures need more protein than others and vice versa.  This may be a topic for another blog post.

All in all, as long as you listen to your hair and give it what it needs, you will not only see continuous growth, but you will have healthy hair as well.  Just like we want to take care of our body from the inside out, we have to do the same for our hair.  Make sure that you are eating a balanced diet and drinking plenty of water.  What you put it in results in what you get out of it.  I hope this was helpful to you.  Let me know below what you do to promote healthy hair growth.