Tuesday Topic- Uncomfortable Conversations: Depression

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“Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him For the help of His countenance. …For You are the God of my strength…”

-Psalm 42:5, 43:2

This month on the “Tuesday Topic” we’re discussing depression.  Depression is definitely a topic that leads to uncomfortable conversations in today’s society.  I’ve been seeing this topic slowly come to surface more and more on social media, which is a good thing.  It needs to be discussed.  There are more people dealing with depression than you’ll ever know.  Some don’t even know they are dealing with it themselves. It could be your best friend, co-worker, or even your spouse.  Depression is something that needs to be understood and dealt with carefully in order to fully see healing in that area of a person’s life.

For most people, depression is one of those things that they just don’t deal with.  It can be perceived almost as an invisible creature that doesn’t really exist, as if it were the “Boogie Man.”  It’s constantly brushed under the rug along with other happenings that often occur in the household that are left on the hush, such as eating disorders or molestation.  We’re told to close our closet doors and cover up our truths with our security blankets in the hopes that it would somehow just go away with the rise of daylight.  Depression is a silent monster that seeps its way into spirits without a trace of its entry.  It is a spirit that is not of God.

According to Webster’s Dictionary, depression is defined as follows:

a state of feeling sad :  dejection anger, anxiety, and depression (2) :  a mood disorder marked especially by sadness, inactivity, difficulty in thinking and concentration, a significant increase or decrease in appetite and time spent sleeping, feelings of dejection and hopelessness, and sometimes suicidal tendencies bouts of depression suffering from clinical depression

Depression can occur in any woman at any time for several different reasons.  It can be caused by abuse, medications, conflict, death of a loved one, genetics, major events, personal problems, illness, and substance abuse.  So basically, it can be caused by almost anything in life at the drop of a dime.  Some are more susceptible to depression than others and it can take a toll on all aspects of one’s life.  According to an article from Mental Health America entitled Depression in Women,  “approximately 12 million women in the United States experience clinical depression each year and about one in every eight women can expect to develop clinical depression during their lifetime (2017).”  Depression is NOT a normal part of life and it must be dealt with, but delicately.

In my own personal experience, depression can feel like drowning in a river while tied down with cement blocks.  I’ve felt immovable and lifeless during the state of depression.  It feels like intense pain inside disguised as comfort.  It feels like being sucked into quicksand and falling into an unknown sunken place of darkness filled with doubt, anger, sadness, and low self-esteem.  Depression is a constant battle that I’ve fought continuously in my life and I still do at times.  It’s something that hurts my soul and somehow leaves me breathless.  Sometimes, as I find myself crawling out of my “sunken place,” I slowly slip back down with my arms stretched out helplessly, but I find that others don’t quite understand.  I’ve only recently expressed this to my husband, but there is still a disconnect when it comes to explaining the feeling.  It’s like I’m yelling at the top of my lungs, but only the sound of silence reaches the tip of my tongue.  It’s hard to fully describe or explain what the feeling is to someone who has never felt it.  To someone else, it may be just a phase that can be cured with a little prayer.  Yes prayer works indefinitely, but I would often find myself hiding away from my faith in the comfort of my depression when things got tough or just hard to deal with.  I would see myself at a standstill as the world around me is continuously spinning uncontrollably.  My faith during these times was tested immensely.

So how do we overcome depression?  How do we assist others that we are close with that feel like they are battling depression alone? Support from others is key whether it’s by giving a person space or being by their side every step of the way.  Either way, you are supporting that person by respecting their wishes within reason.  Do not ignore signs of depression and do not sweep it under the rug.  So many take this topic lightly and don’t realize that depression can easily lead to suicidal thoughts.  “Over 90% of people who die by suicide have clinical depression or another diagnosable mental disorder (WebMD, 2016)”.

For some people, alone time and space is necessary for healing. It allows them to sort through their thoughts and emotions to enable them to push through the process.  Sometimes they just don’t want to be bothered.  They know what they need to do and how, but it just takes time to get out of that dark fog.  Some prefer to just be alone in their bubble, so allow them that time for healing whether it’s in the course of days, weeks, or even months.

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Others may be seeking support and understanding from loved ones.  They may need someone to be a listening ear to let out any pain or frustrations they may be dealing with while in their depressed state.  A pillar of utmost support is needed without judgement. Hold that person’s hand every step of the way and be present.  Understand that it will not be easy.  What is not needed, is negative energy, or being told that it’s a phase or to just get over it.  You see, depression is not so simple for those who are in the midst of it.  Coming out of depression is truly a process and staying out is even more of a task.  Being depressed can really mess with a person’s mental and spiritual state.  The state of depression can have a person off track in their spiritual walk with God in a major way.  Each day that they fall deeper, they can find themselves further away from Him.

Between  molestation during my childhood, a time of separation in my marriage, diagnose of a disease, stress, doubt, and low self-esteem, I felt completely broken to a point where only God could put my pieces back together again and He is… one by one, piece by piece.  While finding my way out, I’ve made bad decisions that led to even worse mistakes.  I remember nights of sleeplessness to the point of insomnia because of deep depression.  There were days when I just could not function at all.  I felt incapable.  I felt worthless.  I was to the point where I felt as if my presence was no longer needed on this earth.  Through many trials, I had to realize that my life did have a purpose and I was needed.  I had to pull through the pain, hurt and frustration in my life and turn it into something I can use.  I realized that all I was going through was a test and I needed to pass in order to see a true breakthrough in my life.

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Of course the ultimate cure for depression is God.  He is always the answer and the cure.  During my times dealing with this, God and His word were the furthest things from my mind.  I found it easier to just sit and sulk rather than to push through and lean on His word.  I would feel the spirit tugging on me to get on my knees and pray or dust off my bible and see what the Lord had to say about my situation and I would turn a deaf ear to it all.  Now, I’m not at all saying that breaking out of a depressed state is easy, but what I am saying is that with God there is ease.  His word is the complete handbook for the ins and outs of our life’s daily struggles.  I find so much release and relief in His word.  Daily, I would make baby steps to find my way back on track.  I would immerse myself in song, journaling, and devotion to keep my mind steadfast.  I’ve used sticky notes around the house with positive reminders and scriptures to get me through the day.  I constantly reminded myself that the storm I was going through was temporary and that God would pull me through as long as I had faith in Him.  I wouldn’t allow the devil the satisfaction of using my soul as his playground.  I smiled through my rough days and encouraged others as I encouraged myself.

“Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy; meditate on these things”

-Philippians 4:4-8

Don’t think for a second that you are alone in this.  Regardless of your situation, God is available.  He is listening to your prayers and requests.  He hears your cries.  Be encouraged and keep pushing through, whether it be a loss of a loved one, difficulties in the marriage, or issues in health, He is the only way out.  It may seem like it’s hard right now, but just know that this is only for a season.  Jeremiah 29 verses 11 and 12 states, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.  Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to me, and I will listen to you.”  God’s plan for your life does not end here in this moment.  If you have fallen in depression because of fear or guilt, please know that God is not mad at you.  Your mistakes are not who you are.  They are your testimony of where you have come from, not where you’re going.  He created you for a purpose whether you see it now or not.  You are needed.  You are loved.  You have purpose.  You are capable.  You are enough. Trust, believe, and know these things.

“We are hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;  persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed… Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

-2 Corinthians 4:8-9, 16-18

Have you ever dealt with depression? If so, how did you deal with it? 

 

Merrium Webster: Definition of Depression Retrieved from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/depression

Recognize the Warning Signs of Suicide. (2016)  Retrieved from http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/recognizing-suicidal-behavior

Depression in Women (2017) Retrieved from http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/conditions/depression-women

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Father’s Day Buying Guide

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Father’s Day is less than a week away and your sitting here still at your computer wondering what to get that special guy in your life.  No worries.  I’ve got you covered.  I’ve come across some awesome small businesses created by some  amazing women that can take care of that issue for you.  Guess what?  These gifts won’t break the bank and you’ll be coming back for more.  Let’s take the time out this year to support those in our community that don’t get the recognition they deserve when it comes to the phenomenal work they put in behind the scenes each day.  Below are a few of my favs that are offering some pretty dope products for Father’s Day.  Check them out and let me know what you think.

  1. Mess In A Bottle- Dad Mug, Dad Shirt  www.messinabottle.com

 

  1. Silksations Creations Regal for Men Body Butta & Body Scrub

www.etsy.com/shop/silksationscreations

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  1. Crafts By Meesha- The Dad Box https://www.facebook.com/craftsbymeesha

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4. Fleurty Wick Candle- Hand poured soy candles “Man Cave Collection” www.fleurtywick.com


5. Koils By Nature- Natural Men’s Care Products

http://koilsbynature.shopgate.com

6. Keys of Beauty- BeardTiFULL Beard Oil

www.keysofbeauty.com

7. Monnie and Me

 t-shirts, Mugs, & aprons

http://www.monnieandme.com/

Prayer

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Prayer:  “A solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God or an object of worship.” – Merriam Webster Dictionary

Prayer is the way we communicate with God.  He hears our prayers and He hears our cries. He also speaks to us through our prayers.  The bible talks about praying without ceasing. 

“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

-1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Praying without ceasing does not mean that you must be on your knees with your eyes closed at all times speaking to God.  It simply means that you are constantly keeping your mind steadfast on Him.  Don’t look at prayer as such a strict or uptight form of speaking to our creator.  Talk to God in actual conversation as you would your father on earth. Involve Him in your everyday practices.  Speak to Him about your struggles, reveal to him your innermost thoughts.   Praying without ceasing should be compared to living and breathing.  The two go hand in hand. If ever worry or fear comes upon you, prayer should be the first thing that comes to mind.  When you are thankful, encouraged, or going through a storm, prayer should be constant.  Prayer can be a small “Thank you Lord,” to a full out session of prayer and praise, eyes closed and body bent. Prayer is a way to show that you put all of your trust in God at all times with all situations.  When you pray you are letting God know that you place your life in His hands and that all is well with Him.  When you start to pray less, you begin to put more trust in yourself which can lead you astray.

Prayer is not only a time to talk, but a time to listen as well. The Lord knows the desires of our hearts. He knows what our needs are.  We must take the time to sit in silence and listen for His voice.

“And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words.”

-Matthew 6:7

Listening for God’s voice allows Him to reveal to you his vision and desires for you.  He begins to birth a purpose inside of you that you never could have imagined.  He uncovers the blueprint to reach higher heights and deeper depths in your life and the lives of others.

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the father of lights, with whom there is no variation of shadow of turning.”

-James 1:17

 

Her-Story Spotlight: Flaunt Ya Faith

Her Story Spotlight- LaQuonda Rene
 “Purpose is never easy, but it’s doable.”

This month on the Her-Story Spotlight, we’re shining light on the beautiful Quonda Renee, founder of Flaunt Ya Faith.  Flaunt Ya Faith is an inspirational online jewelry shop for women.  Her shop includes items such as clutches, makeup bags, bracelets, necklaces, earrings, and tote bags.  Quonda is originally from Connecticut, but currently resides in Riley, North Carolina.  This thirty-one-year-old entrepreneur on the rise has only been in business for four years and has seen tremendous growth in sales, but it wasn’t always this way.  As we got further into our interview, Quonda expresses more about her humble beginnings.

Why did you become an entrepreneur?

“I was laid off from my healthcare job.  It was unexpected.  I was not prepared financially and I lost everything and had to move back in with my parents.  At the time, I needed inspiration so I used the little unemployment money I had and started Flaunt Ya Faith.”

Quonda discussed how she was not financially prepared and looked for a job for almost a year.  After soul searching and spending time with God, He revealed to her the vision of Flaunt Ya Faith.  She created the jewelry for herself initially as a small reminder of her faith to push her through her current situation.  She saw that there was a lack in that industry when it comes to inspirational jewelry and felt that she would be able to fill that need and did just that.

Quonda mentioned that about 90 percent of the jewelry has inspirational message on them and that her bracelets are her top sellers.  Not everything is handmade because she is beginning to be a bit overwhelmed with production, which is a good thing.  She has been outsourcing with some private label designers so that she can focus more on the business end as Flaunt Ya Faith continually grows.

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How has your faith attributed to your journey as an entrepreneur?

“Faith is the only way I have made it this far.  It keeps me grounded.  I mean the name of my business is Flaunt Ya Faith.  It takes a whole lot of faith to start a business with an unemployment check.  Anyone who has been unemployed knows that’s not a lot of money, especially when you have other bills.”

Jewelry making was not the business that first came to mind.  “When I first decided I wanted to be an entrepreneur before I lost my job I was thinking about selling t-shirts.  The concept that I had at the time was so worldly that I would probably be a millionaire by now if I would have gone with that, but that wasn’t who I was.  I think purpose is more important than popularity.”  We discussed how it is sometimes harder for a faith based business to thrive and do well because it may not be as accepted compared to others.  “When you are operating in your purpose and in your gift, money will come.  God always provides” It’s not about the money.  It’s about the message.

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I loved that Quonda called her followers her tribe in our interview.  It made me feel like they were so much more than customers or numbers on social media.  We discussed the necessity of being transparent in business during the interview and how it helps to build a better following.

“I think being transparent has definitely helped me with my business.  I consider Instagram my family.  There’s times you can go back on some of my posts and I’ll tell them like I’m going through this and I know someone going through this and people will DM me saying thank you for posting that or I needed that word of encouragement.  Social media has helped a lot because I’ve could reach and ship to people who don’t even live in America.  I don’t think my business would be where it is now without social media,” said Quonda.

One thing that I love that Quonda mentioned is that she doesn’t use her e-mail list solely to sell to her customers, but she tells them a story.  She gives transparency for situations that have happened along with resolutions.  “I’m not going to be something I’m not or pretend to be at a place where I’m not.  That builds a community with the people that you serve,” said Quonda.

 What are your goals for the future of your business?

“I definitely want to grow a little bit more.  I would love to hire people.  There are so many people that need jobs.  I’d like to do that before the end of the year.  I would at least like to have one part time person there all the time.  I would like to be in some stores like Macy’s or something like that. I Would love to have a brick and mortar because there aren’t very many stores you can walk in that are full of inspiration.  Quonda also mentioned her desire to vend at pop up shops in the mall. Her products are currently listed on Overstock and ASOS.

We discussed the necessity of taking a break from your business.  While owning your own business, you must be able to regroup and revamp so not to let yourself become overwhelmed with the ins and out of daily operation.   Quonda mentioned that it was necessary to take a break from her online shop for a few months to get things in order.  Her website is currently up and running now and ready for sales once again.

What piece of advice would you have given yourself prior to starting your business?

“Don’t try to be everything to everybody.  Find a niche or a tribe and connect with them,” said Quanda.  Often times newbies in business tend to follow the crowd and lack their own identity when starting out.  It’s important to be original and maintain your own identity in order to be successful.

It was a pleasure interviewing Quonda Renee.  I was so inspired by her journey in business and I am excited to see where God will take Flaunt Ya Faith.  Her original pieces are beautiful and so is she.  Quonda is proof that faith can bring you through any situation as long as you are fulfilling the purpose God has set before you.

You can follow Flaunt Ya Faith on:

Facebook/Instagram/Pinterest @Flauntyafaith

To purchase go to http://www.flauntyafaith.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Favored Freauxs Prayer Challenge

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“I call on you, my God for you will answer me; turn your ear to me and hear my prayer.”

– Psalm 17:6

The Lord laid it on my heart not too long ago to start a prayer challenge to encourage others to recondition their prayer lives as well as my own.  To be honest, I was nervous and confused.  I grew up thinking that in order to begin a ministry or to pray for others you have to be someone of a high status or a certain level of authority in the church.  Not so.  God has a purpose for EVERYONE.  If He has called you, answer the call. There is greatness inside of you no matter your position.  When I started Favored Freauxs, my initial prayer was to be a vessel for the Lord and allow Him to use me as He sees fit despite my downfalls.  As He begins to use me, it excites me more than words can explain.

So he said to Him, “O my Lord, how can I save Israel? Indeed my clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my father’s house.”  And the Lord said to him, “Surely I will be with you, and you shall defeat the Midianites as one man.”

-Judges 6:15-16

During this challenge, I’d like us to turn the mirror around and work on ourselves.  This walk with God is personal.  It’s not about your attendance every Sunday at church  or how many bible verses you have memorized.  This walk is about your personal relationship with Him.  It’s about how we live our lives outside of those four walls.  We have to make ourselves accountable for our own souls.  There’s no plus one for where we’re trying to go.  I’d like us to use this challenge to allow God to take over completely.  Lets give Him full access holding nothing back.  Allow Him to create in us a new creature, a clean heart, and fill us with His undying love, grace, and mercy.

When it comes to my prayer life, I personally feel like I can  do better in this area.  Not only that, but the way I pray needs to change.  I desire to have a prayer life that does not cease.  I also have the desire to not only pray continuously but to pray in the spirit….yes, there is a difference.  I desire to intercede for others.  My life is not perfect and neither am I.  I want to continue to learn to forgive others and forgive myself for the things of the past.

What are your desires for yourself spiritually?  What are you believing God for in your life?  Are you dealing with hurt, pain, unforgiveness, sin, or bitterness?  Do you have health issues that seem unbearable?  Are you battling with depression, suicidal thoughts, lust?  Have you lost a loved one and feel alone?  PRAY! Cry out to the Lord.  Cast ALL of your cares on Him, not just a few.  Leave your problems and issues with Him.  Don’t take them back.  Empty yourself in the Lord and allow Him to do great works in your life.  My prayer for you all is that He softens hardened hearts, comforts hurting souls, and brings you out of darkness and into His light.  I pray that this challenge  changes lives for the better.

Prayer Challenge Guidelines:

  • The prayer challenge will last for a total of 30 days beginning on June 1st and ending on June 30th.
  • You should see a prompt once you visit this site to enter your name and email address to join the challenge.  If you haven’t already done so, please do.
  • Once you sign up for the challenge, you will receive an email each day with a prompt to guide you through your 30 day prayer challenge. Each day will be on a different topic.
  • You have the option of writing down your prayer or just speaking it aloud.  Writing down your prayers will allow you to return to them in the future to reflect on your spiritual growth.
  • If you would like to share your prayer with me you are more than welcome to do so.  You can also share on social media using the hashtag #favoredprayerchallenge.  These are only options.  You are not obligated to do so.

That’s it.  It’s simple.  I’ll check in throughout the month to see how things are going.  We’re in this together.  Lets lift each other up in prayer during this time and watch God do wonders.

 

 

 

Kalilah Wright: “Mess in a Bottle”

 

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http://www.messinabottle.com

In the times that we live in, merely working at a typical 9-5 just doesn’t cut it anymore.   More women are leaving their cookie-cutter lifestyles and branching out on the path to becoming an entrepreneur.  Some talk themselves out of their dreams because of the fear of failure, while others muster up enough faith and strength to push through their passion.  I decided to seek out and interview amazing, everyday women who have made it their duty to push the envelope of entrepreneurship despite the challenges. It would only be fitting to feature a few of these women creating history or should I say “her-story” here on the blog once a month.

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I conducted my very first of many interviews with the beautiful soul Kalilah Wright. She is a single mother of an 3 year old son, hustler, and CEO of the T-shirt company “Mess in a Bottle.”  Per Wright, her company creates products that are “emotional, thought provoking, and expressive to the current climate of the world.”  Her products include, but are not limited to t-shirts, mugs, pillow cases, pens, and jackets.  I stumbled upon Kalilah after being added to a closed business branding group on social media and her posts were so inspiring to me that I felt the need to interview her as soon as possible.

The name Mess in a Bottle derived from Kalilah’s desire to display messages on her products.  Kalilah explained that the name “Message in a Bottle” had already been taken when she initially started her business, so she decided to coin the name “Mess in a bottle” and ran with it.   “Mess” would represent the good, the bad, and the ugly,” said Wright. In our interview, Kalilah stated that she wanted to create messages to allow people to be vocal without saying anything at all. She accomplished that and so much more with her catchy phrases and original designs.  Kalilah’s messages through her apparel are both innovative and creative and always up on the times.  They reflect both political and social aspects of the current events.  She is always quick on her toes when it comes to new phrases on her products and her advertising is always on point, visual, and relatable.

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Now what I love most about her product is the packaging.  Mess in a Bottle isn’t just a cute name for her online t-shirt shop.  Her shirts come inside of a cute reusable bottle. It’s very reminiscing to the message that would travel in a bottle through bodies of water.  Except in this case the messages are printed on stylish t-shirts and are sent via USPS.

At the age of 4 years old, Kalilah’s parents decided to immigrate from Jamaica to Brooklyn, NY. She moved to Baltimore, MD 8 years ago and frequently visits New York.  Wright earned her master’s degree in architecture and design.  With her degrees and skills, Kalilah managed to land a job creating interior store layouts for Under Armor for two years.  Now I know what you may be thinking, who would leave Under Armor?  Well, some people just have that entrepreneurial spirit and Kalilah is one of them.  When I asked this question, she explained that at the time, she owned a baby furniture company and needed some extra cash flow to maintain the business.  She learned that selling t-shirts would yield a faster turnaround time and help fund her original business.  Her side hustle became overwhelming over time and it began to interfere with her day job at Under Armor.  She eventually made the big decision to step out on faith and make the pursuit to turn her side hustle into a full time her business.  Kalilah currently has two assistants and up to five virtual assistants who all play a part in customer service, responding to emails, and invoicing to maintain the flow of Mess in a Bottle.

Kalilah was featured on the variety talk show “Harry” hosted by Grammy and Emmy winner Harry Connick, Jr. and it has made a difference in sales for Mess in a Bottle.  Wright said that the experience was an amazing feeling and it wasn’t planned at all.  It was initially orchestrated by a friend of hers that was looking out.  She said that everything seemed to happen within a matter of days.  Her friend told her that the Harry show was looking to feature entrepreneurs for the next episode. After getting wind of that info, Kalilah called and spoke to the casting director to find out about getting on the show.  When the episode aired, she received an enormous amount of attention and a big jump in sales.

I asked Wright if there are any ethical concerns that she might deal with while running her business.  She mentioned that she does run into some difficulties when creating her political shirts.  Her overall brand supports others opinions, but sometimes they may not agree with her own.  Since this benefits her business, she is willing to overcome that difference.

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She sees Mess in a Bottle ten years down the line as a big corporation and not just a T-shirt company.  Wright mentioned that she’d like to be able to go outside of shirts one day and expand to other products as well.  She is working on a few projects currently that will assist in leading Mess in a Bottle in that direction.  Kalilah is also transitioning into preparing her business for the uncertainties of life.  I asked what she thinks would happen to her business if she was no longer here.  Kalilah said that she is in the process of putting together a mess in a bottle handbook on how to operate the business that would also include her vendor information so that the business would continue to run smoothly whether she is here or not.

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As we closed out our interview, I asked Kalilah if there was any advice that she would give anyone trying to start a business of their own.  She said that someone new to the scene should stay true to their process. Kalilah mentioned that the biggest issues that she has run across in business are finances, minimal capital, and time management.  So many people have their own answers to how their business works.  She said that it’s necessary to figure things out on your own.  What works for one person will not always work for the next.  Kalilah said that the amazing part about building a business is that we create our own path with no formula.  She mentioned that she sticks to using her own intuition and gut feelings to make her decisions.  I must say that I completely agree with this way of thinking.  You won’t get too far trying to be like anyone else but yourself.  No two businesses are going to be alike even if they are in the same niche.  Do you boo boo!

 

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I’ve got my “Mess” in a Bottle. “Get Your Life Write. Bloggerlife.”

Grab yours at www.messinabottle.com

You can also follow Mess In A Bottle on:

Instagram @messinabottle and Facebook @ MESS in a Bottle

I’m so happy to have been able to speak with this queen and “mompreneur” about her prospering business.  She kept it real and let me know that it’s no walk in the park or for the faint of heart.  If I hadn’t mentioned this enough, Kalilah Wright is an inspiration on every level. She embodies what the definition of a true hustler is.  Watching her grow and expand her brand over time is like watching one of your home girls finally make it to the top.  Her small wins are big for all of us.  She literally started from the ground up and can only go higher from here on out.

This interview is the first of so many to come.  If you haven’t followed the blog already, go ahead and do so to keep up with the latest and greatest as Favored Freauxs continues to grow.  We’ll be featuring a new woman creating “Her-story” each month.

 

 

 

 

God Is Not Mad At You

GOD IS NOT MAD AT YOU

The Lord Is gracious and full of compassion, slow to anger and great in mercy. The Lord is good to all, And His tender mercies are over all His works”

-Psalms 145:8-9

A lot of us live our lives ashamed of our selves and ashamed to seek God’s face in times of despair.  We feel that if we don’t have a spot free past that He will forsake us.  We feel that if we are living in sin that He will turn His back toward us.  Even when Eve committed the very first sin, God still loved her in this mist of her shame and guilt.  Contrary to popular belief, God does not hold on to our shortcomings against us in fierce anger.  When we continuously think this way, it leaves ample time for the devil to make his way into our lives and cause so much confusion.  We slowly distance ourselves away from the will of God and find it harder to find our way back on the right path in fear of being a disappointment to others and especially God.  It’s similar to a child in fear of disappointing their parent and keeping distance from them when they’ve done wrong.

The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying:

Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with loving kindness I have drawn you.

-Jeremiah 31:3

God’s love is eternal and everlasting despite our flaws.  I know it may be difficult to believe because of human interaction.  When we disappoint our friends and loved ones, we find that they may not forgive so easily or take us back with open arms.  God is not of this world.  He created us and knows everything we are doing and will do.  He created the blueprint for the plans He has in our lives.  We are always welcome back in His arms despite our flaws, mishaps, sins, or just bad decisions.

I love the Lord, because He has heard my voice and my supplications.  Because He has inclined His ear to me, Therefore I will call upon Him as long as I live.

-Psalms 116: 1-2

Call out to the Lord in times of need.  When you feel alone, depressed, or stressed, He is the listening ear that will always be available.  God will always have the solutions to your problems and will guide you and keep you.  He is a forgiving God. He will guide you back on the path you were meant to follow and never lead you astray.
What then shall we say to these things?  If God is for us, who can be against us?”

-Romans 8:31

Just know that you are not alone and God will always be there for you regardless of wrong doing.  God is not mad at you.  Don’t sit dwelling in your past.  Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  God has blessed you with a fresh start, a new beginning.  Take advantage of it right now and start off by giving Him praise for all of His grace and mercy toward you.